Growing Together

Growing Together: Embracing Change and Being Present for Your Family

So, the kids are back at school this week, and let’s be honest—it’s a bit of an adjustment for all of us. As a family, changing up the routine seems to ripple through the house, affecting everyone. There have been tears, arguments, followed by hugs and reconciliations. Sound familiar?

I’ve come to really value my role as a mum—it’s something I hold close to my heart. But that doesn’t make it easy. Just when I think I’ve got a handle on things, the goalposts shift again! For years, this used to frustrate me so much, and I’d beat myself up for not being “good enough.” But recently, it hit me: this is exactly how it’s supposed to be. The kids are growing, evolving, and so is our relationship.

How can they grow if everything around them stays the same? How can our relationship as parent and child develop if we don’t allow it to? And it’s no wonder they’re sometimes overwhelmed—because their worlds are in a constant state of change, too.

Look, I’m no parenting expert, but I do know that being fully present for my family is one of the most important things I can do. I’ve worked hard to create a life where I have the mental energy and physical presence to give them, and along the way, I’ve picked up a few things that have really helped. Here’s what I’ve found:

1. Travel = Talk Time

When you’re traveling with your kids (or your partner) and there’s no phone in sight, it’s a golden opportunity to chat. Even a few minutes of conversation here and there can make a difference, so take advantage of it!

2. Make Time to Eat Together

I know, I know—it sounds cliché. But trust me, sitting down to eat together at a table has been a game-changer for our family. My husband and I ask each other about our day, and the kids naturally follow suit. There’s no pressure or expectations; it just happens. And yes, phones stay far, far away.

3. Watch TV Together

With streaming services, it’s so easy for everyone to do their own thing, but that can create a bit of a disconnect. We try to bring everyone together for a family movie night or just watch something together. It’s a small effort that keeps us connected.

4. Listen Without Expectations

When you ask, “How was your day?” don’t expect a perfect answer. Sometimes they’ve had a rough day, and that’s okay. Sit with them in those feelings for a bit—acknowledge them. Helping them talk through their worries is sometimes all they need to start moving forward.

5. Remind Them You’re Not the Enemy

Especially with older teens, it’s easy for them to lash out when they’re frustrated. But if they’re doing that, it means they feel safe with you. When we go down that road, I like to gently remind them that I’m not the enemy—I’m here, and I’m always acting with their best interests in mind.

6. Sometimes, They Just Need Love

We’ve been through some seriously tough times as a family, and sometimes, there’s no “fix.” No advice will help, and there’s no magic solution in sight. In those moments, I’ve learned to simplify my response: just offer love. It’s powerful. I still ask my kids if they need a hug, and that simple act of physical touch can work wonders for everyone.

At the end of the day, none of us have all the answers, but being there for our families is what really counts. So, whether it’s traveling, eating together, or just sitting in silence after a tough day—every little bit helps.

What’s one small thing you could do this week to be more present with your family? Let me know in the comments or feel free to reach out. You’ve got this!